Father's miracle
I have long suspected that beauty can be found anywhere if one looks closely enough. But now I wonder if the same can be said for miracles, that they might exist even during the most trying of times. Perhaps even within a week such a this, one that finds my father lying in a hospital bed inches away from my mother, the original patient, who sits recovering from her heart attack.
Their saga began early Sunday morning when Mother awoke to a puzzling array of symptoms that included non-stop hiccups and a pain under an armpit. Hindered by deteriorating vision, my 86-year old father hurried glanced through the family medical guide before giving up in frustration.
“I said, ‘I think we should call 9-1-1’'” he tells me today as he relays the story with amazing detail. The precision seems especially remarkable in light of his increasing forgetfulness.
“Your mother,” he continues, “didn’t argue.” Dad pauses for effect. Mom is a stubborn German woman; she doesn’t often admit she needs help.
After placing his urgent phone call, my father then stopped to consider how the paramedics would get Mom out of the house. The front entry was the most direct route, yet it hadn’t been used as a port of entry or exit in years; it had come to function more like a side closet. Quickly he cleared stacks of Mother’s quilting fabrics away from the door, then pulled chairs out from what would become the pathway. Dad pulled on his trousers just as the medical team arrived.
Now this might not seem a miracle in and of itself, that an elderly man would have the presence of mind to do what was needed in order to help his wife of 50-some years. That he would remain calm under pressure and mentally navigate the steps required that would speed assistance. But my father struggles with dementia. He often relies on my mother to remind him when to bathe or to dress ... and how to.
“The medics were there within ten minutes.” He concludes the story for what may be the twentieth time in six days ... but I don’t mind.
Tonight the nursing staff moved Mother to a bigger room. After confessing to his own chest pains for the last few days, Dad has also been admitted to the hospital, and to her room, for observation. I think it’s the stress. A sister has a hunch that he is experiencing “sympathy” pains.
Tomorrow Dad will forget the tightness in his own chest while he again recites the story of my mother’s rescue without the slightest deviation. And I will marvel that his mental faculties were razor sharp when it was needed most. From where I sit, that's a miracle.






Contemplations on aging.


This story does not yet have an ending ... but I've decided that's no reason to not
to tell it. As life always does, this saga will unfold in its own way
and its outcome will be whatever is meant to be ... even though it almost began with a little white lie.

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